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You don’t need to believe in anything to be here. Not hope. Not healing. Not even yourself. Mattlr.com: This isn’t a shrine to self-improvement. This is a field tent. Mud on the floor. Bandages are everywhere. Masks serve no purpose…
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Broken? Good. Now Move.
“Don’t diagnose yourself.” That’s what my colleague said, years ago, when I mentioned I suspected I had depression. I did seek help, much later, when I could. He folded his arms sanctimoniously and repeated himself, “You can’t just diagnose yourself.”…
Surviving the Small King at work.
Hail to the King, by Avenged Sevenfold, is a gritty tune that rocks out against the abuse of power.When the Small King rose to power within my organization, the lyrics of that song burrowed into my mind.He mastered the art…
What’s the point of carrying on… really?
Often, I notice how people ask: What’s the point of everything? What’s the point of carrying on? Nobody can really answer that in a way that fits everyone. Maybe the point isn’t why we carry on. Maybe the point is…
MONK MIND: When “it” hits, answer.
Monk super-stoicism, ahh, yes! Did you get much of your research from soaking up all those movie tropes and archetypes? On the screen, we watch levitation, iron-willed self-control, superhero antics, and yet, monks stay human. They have a nervous system,…
Swearing is a weapon. Use It Like You Mean It (Or Don’t Use It at All).
If you have to, use the occasional ‘fuck’ not as filler, but as a precision tool, not for edge, but for breaking walls or landing emotional weight. Swearing is punctuation, used sparingly. It’s not the content, it’s the impact. Is…
“If you love what you do, you’ll never work a day in your life.” Debunking harmful cliches.
“If you love what you do, you’ll never work a day in your life.” That’s a classic line often dropped by tech brothers who work 80-hour weeks but have a ping pong table in the office, so it’s “fun.” That…
The “signature” product fallacy.
Let’s rip the lid off the “signature” product fallacy : that slick marketing trick that makes you believe a “signature blend,” “signature sauce,” or “signature series” is basically the owner’s or the CEO’s personal favorite. “Signature” implies exclusivity, craftsmanship, and…
It’s Okay to Say You’re Not Okay , But It’s Not Okay to Stay There
Think of your mind like a car engine, stay with me: You’re cruising, but then something feels off, and it’s not existential dread brought on by a depressing tune on the radio. Maybe the spark plug lead pops off, you’ve…
Cultivating the art of the sacred pause.
You dread those days when “everything” sucks! Bad news everywhere. And then, your phone rings. It’s that person. The one who always brings drama. You haven’t even answered yet, and your stomach’s already tight. Ulcer loading! You know how this…